i loved this video, i loved how i can tell pro ana sites make you mad even though you try to be polite about it , it shows that you really care about those that suffer.
Thank you for being so emphatic, I used those sites to feel like I 'belonged' because I thought nobody could possibly understand me. I since have found that I get more validation and sense of belonging from the pro-recovery community on youtube.
Thank you so much for this video, it seems like you really understand what people with an eating disorder are going through. I struggle with both anorexia and bulimia for 3 years now, but it's just now that i'm making some steps towards recovery. it takes a lot of time and it took a long time for me to realize that it was that hard..and it was hard to give myself this time. so i just want to say thank you!
My main problem with this video is that it only addresses people who are really far into their eating disorders. Not everyone with an eating disorder is at that point. There's a lot of grey area, and watching this video is a bit alienating to people with EDNOS, and to eating disordered people who still have jobs and friends.
Here's my dilema: If i feel off-the-rails, i need something to emotionally cling to, theyre all that works because its on the same wavelength as me at that time. all the healthy stuff never makes me feel better because if feel like sort of lies i guess, or being patronised. does that make sense?
people who claim to be pro ana/mia in my opinion are in denial. I think they do have eating disorders but like you say isolate themselves so much they believe the online community is helping them and they understand. yes they do understand but no in a good way, i was at that point earlier 2012, i hadnt been out with my friends since beginning october 2011 and the pro ana sites kept me company as i believed they cared.
i think people need to be aware of how much pro ana/mia hinders people. and thank you 🙂
I honestly do not understand the whole pro-ana/pro mia thing. I don't believe anyone who has an actual eating disorder could ever be "pro" it, or encourage other people to starve themselves, binge, purge etc. You may as well just hand them a noose. I have a very serious disorder and would not wish this upon my worst enemy. Those sites are just ignorant and offensive, I speak to many other girls with eating disorders but we would never ever encourage eachother to carry out any harmful behaviour.
Thank you for harping on recovery and not on self harm. I am on the same point as you. I strongly believe that a community for pro-anorexics and such, should not revolve around unhealthy living, but instead around recovery and positive thinking. Writing in a journal is a great thing to do and even meeting with a group of people with a similar problem so that you can be held accountable for your actions, and perhaps mirror yourself in a different way than normal.
I was on pro Ana sights for a really long time and had secret pages of thinspo and food porn. I felt so scared & alone the only place people understood what I was going through where on those sights…. recently i just blocked an old Ana/diet buddy it was so hard. I didn't realize how harmful that relationship was until I got a message from her saying how she's fasting and all that… i showed my nutritionist and she watched me block her so I wouldn't be triggered by her further.
(part2)Itkept me from being so alone and made me realize that there wereother people like me.I didn't have access to much treatment besides a school counselor who was one of my neighbors and then later on a Dr my mother worked for.Yeah they got dark esp. with the fasts and thinspo but it was all I had.I managed to stay alive.Now I go to free groups and am trying to get into therapy.I truly still care about all those girls and even though we've lost touch I pray for they can recover everyday
Oh these sites are so sad. I try to avoid them now. I wish they didn't exist they hurt so many people and I know that when I am struggling I tend to gravitate back towards them which i know is my own problem and not the sites but I still wish they weren't there. I feel so sad for the person writing them because I know they are not really happy….it really is just their ED talking. There are lots of recovery sites, I try stick to them now. Thanks for your videos!
I know what your saying with this, but I've had experiences where I can get out of bed, I want to get good grades in school and that's what keeps me going. The contrast to that is everything else that happens out of lessons, but I still have friends. This video only really addresses people far into an eating disorder. But I do agree with what you're saying.
Boys get anorexia too. I'm just telling you that.
im struggling so much right now . i talk to my therapist but i feel like im all alone in this daily battle. i isolate myself more and more and i tink i may be comming dow with depression again but i dont want to tell anyone i dont want to be a burden to anyone @***** #kati
I totally agree with her
I hope it will be that easy but is not …
I used to go on those sites when I was suffering from ed… It's like a secret, toxic world where people encourage you to get sicker and sicker! It's absolutely horrible and it's so addicting when ed is engraved in your mind! And like you said, it is a cry for help… People talk about their struggles with ed on those sites because they don't want to 100% open up to their therapist…I'm still recovering from from ed.. But not going on those pro ana and pro mia sites is a huge step for me!
Now im 20 years old and my mind is in a total different place. But when i was 15 those sites where my LIFE. That was all i looked at. I talked with other people in forums about tips and tricks and people where almost helping each other getting sicker. And i found comfort in that, it was like a huge secret that only we knew about. It didnt help that one of my best friends at the time did the exact same thing. We used to hang out and create thinspo books togheter. We egged each other on. We fasted togheter. It was so toxic but that was all i wanted to do. And one day that website we used to be at shut down, and it was devestating. It was like' what the hell am i supposed to do now? Im from Sweden and it was a swedish site. So when we talked about different foods everyone could actually get there hands on it. It wasnt the same on american sites because you obviously doesnt have the same products in stores. So after that site shut down i got away from it for a bit.
I'm currently trying to get better on my own from bulimia and it's the hardest thing iv had to do there is nothing pro about having a eating disorder try having cracked ribs from being sick so much try having ulcers and the bulimia still controls me I literally cannot eat a thing without feeling sick I can't eat a full meal I can't even eat half otherwise I will have to be sick I haven't been sick in two days and I'm trying my best not to my anxiety is through the roof so ever little bit of chest pain I get I think I'm having a heart attack from destroying my body I wish I had never started it it was the worst thing I did but I can't seem to get out of it so please don't believe them sites
is been hurting lots lately
Have you made any videos on waiting for your goal weight to get better?
this was the most confrontational yet most loving video I have yet to watch
There was really only one site I went on. I'm still part of it. It was never completely pro in either direction. There are people on this website that are in recovery, thinking about recovery, asking those in the recovery community questions… then there are those that don't want help right now. I've yet to see anyone on this particular site encourage anyone to be sick. I've seen mods and veteran members (🤚🤚) holler at new comers for posting crap related to pro. I've also seen people get kicked off the site completely. It's a huge support for me. In my opinion, no one who is truly sick will help make someone else sick.
You're right I am sad, I can't get out of bed and I have lost touch with everyone around me.
I needed to see this video.
I have been to therapy for a couple years now. I love my life. My self esteem is better than its ever been. I spend time with my friends and family almost everyday. I have a great self care routine. And I can genuinely say I am happy. But if I eat a "normal" amount, I feel awful. It makes me feel lethargic and sick. I know my body weight is considered very underweight, but I feel healthy this way. I've managed to make sure no one has even suspected it. I live on under 800 calories a day. I work out and run. But its not a big part of my life, I hardly think about it.
And I admit I am on many pro ana sites. I spend about 10 mins on them, if that, in a day. I don't usually post anything. I offer emotional support. And I do encourage those who aren't getting positive results to recover.
Please girls, as a mom of a daughter who used to have anorexia. She has healed, and is still beautiful and thin and healthy. Talk to someone. Don't do this!!
I think pro Ana is okay it’s not to make others sick it’s to support those who made the choice they want to be thinner
I don't wanna hear isI don't. Want. To.I know she's right, but those spaces on the internet are spaces that I am so scared to leave. I'm scared of getting better, scared of where I am now. The only thing I want is to get worse. Right now, I don't care if I end up in hospital.I'm sick.I'm sick.I'm sick.Fucking help.I don't even know what's happening anymore. I can't see past this.
the most understanding and real advice i’ve heard from someone trying to help. thank you.
“i know that you’re really sad”This hit me so hard. When I was struggling from my eating disorder i was convinced that i was the happiest that I had ever been but my bestfriend would tell me that she’s never seen me more miserable and zombie like in my life. I was completely isolated from everyone, spent every second of my day thinking about food, calories, the body that I wanted. My grades suffered because I’d spend all my lessons thinking about what food I was going to eat or I was too exhuasted to think. My hair fell out like crazy to the point that after I brushed my entire head the whole brush would be completely covered by hair that I could only see half of the bristles. My blood pressure dropped and I still struggle with it, my immune system weakened and my period stopped. I never spoke to anyone because I spent all day sleeping from how seriously ill I was or on the internet researching low calorie foods and thinspirsation. My friends and family all said that I was turning into a completely different person, turning into a shell of the person I previously was. I was beyond depressed and miserable and would have severe panic attacks if I had over 300 calories. Eating disorders are a literal plague that take over your life and will drain you of all of your happiness like a dementor. I’m happy to say that I am now recovering and my mindset towards food has improved greatly. Please get help, I didnt go to a therapist but writing my feelings in a diary and opening up to my bestfriend and surrounding myself with positivity really helped me to recover. Listening to music about loving yourself (I recomment BTS) really helped me.
I remember this girl who ran a proana site died one night in her living roomAnd people were shocked and upset but still didn't get help :/
We didn't even need the video, the thumbnail says everything.
I'm a man with an ED… I dont exist here. I am over 40… I don't exsist outside the Freak Show circuit. I die… I am a minuscule percentage.
What makes these sites like quicksand is the level of empathy and endearment from others. I fell into ana habits because my anxiety and depression were through the roof, my grades were dropping, and I felt rejected by my parents. It was like my ana siblings were the only ones who genuinely gave a flying fuck about me.
I just found this post of yours and just got diagnosed with bulimia and I'm scared. I'm scared because I never thought I had an eating disorder
HAHAHA " Oh it feels so goood to be anorexic, its amaaazing". Yeah, you DEFINITELY understand. I'm sure you have a DEEP awareness of what it feels like to have no choice in the matter of food. "I know you're sad".. HAHA wtf? Negative… "I know where you're at, TRUST ME". Get the hell out of here. "I know how you feel" HAHA no.
You clearly have no understanding of anything ED based. You say to journal and "surround yourself with positive energy" and problem solved. Yeah, lady, it'd surely that simple. Your video is horribly insensitive, self righteous, holier than thou, and so, sooo deeeeeply ignorant. I do genuinely hope you NEVER understand the need for outlets like sites you're condemning.
These places provide safe spaces for those that are not recovering, trying to recover, and HAVE recovered. They provide a platform for all of these types to mingle. The provide a space that people with these life altering disorders can speak, and be open and accepted at any place on their journey. They provide a place to be truly heard and understood and rallied for! It ALSO can be a beneficial place for doctors and researchers to observe people in their most vulnerable state to maybe have a better understanding of the power and ED has over someone, and perhaps provide an insight in to developing ways to help.
So instead of wagging your finger and intolerantly preaching and shaming people for something you truly have no grasp on, why don't you try to, I don't know, focus on something other than biased, unsolicited opinions on topics you don't understand.
P.s. For the love of god STAHP saying "we." You cannot both alienate your viewer and then tell them that you are one with them at the same time. The people that truly understand ED do not consider you in the "we" category. You don't get the wear the badge. I'm sorry.
I wish everyone in your profession was so open and helpful. It can feel so isolating to live in an area where none of the mental help is right for you
I feel attacked
Proana is cancer.It makes you loose strength and health your bones take over your skin left with nothing but ashes don't ever go to proana I used to and had 7 surgery's! But it just gets Worse each day getting more addicted to proana is a pain …please don't waste your life of time on this useless stupid sight you should have never messed around with…
Please check Dr dray the dermatologist. It is very troubling. Many young girls follow her.
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